|Seal it with a kiss and let the postman be your messenger of love|
"We write letters because they last, even when the love that inspired them has gone..."
Quotation from How to Write Love Letters by Michelle Lovric
In a technological age it would seem that we have lost the art of writing love letters. These days we rush off an email, a text or post a message to someone on Facebook or Twitter, but the romantic gesture of actually writing and posting a love letter is all but forgotten.
For me love letters are the best possible approach from a new suitor; less fattening than chocolates, more lasting than flowers, the humble billet doux will always get my attention. Maybe it's because I'm a writer and so a written message captures my interest. If it's written down, I simply have to read it. I cannot ignore it, like I can dismiss a pick-up approach in public.
There is something rather special about a letter, or even a cheeky Hallmark card that says just the right thing, coming unexpectedly through the letterbox. It is a small act of genuine regard that has the power to make someone's day. It can make the difference between a romance blossoming or falling flat before it's even got off the ground. It can pave the way for a new love to be made welcome in a woman's life.
There is much to be said for this type of 'softly-softly' approach. A love letter isn't a demand for a woman's time and attention; it isn't an unexpected and inconvenient knock on the door when she's in the bath. It is a gentle whisper that says 'When you have a moment, read this' A love letter is a non-threatening approach, so perfect for the gun-shy girl, wounded by love in the past. It is an invitation to consider the possibility of something more. It is a private moment when she can experience a man's regard for her, without being expected to give anything in return. There is a purity to the love letter - the gentle caress of the wordsmith leading a woman to make a reply; it gives her permission to speak the truth of her heart without fear of embarrassment because distance creates a protective shield.
The billet doux can quite respectfully be taken to bed long before the suitor; it can be read, over and over, while the moonlight filters into the bedroom and the candles flicker. The kisses written in a love letter are just as treasured as the real thing, and they last forever. If lovers are forced to spend time apart, a love letter can be the best way to ensure he is the last one to wish her goodnight and sweet dreams, as she peruses his words before she goes to sleep at night. It can be the bridge that brings them together in the end and the hope for a brighter future together.
"Mine own sweetheart, these shall be to advertise to you of the great aloneness that I find here since your departing"
Henry VIII to Anne Boleyn