"Say you'll remember me, standing in a nice dress,
staring at the sunset...red lips and rosy cheeks,
say you'll see me again even if it's just in your wildest dreams"
Taylor Swift's Wildest Dreams is my favourite song of the moment...it reminds me of a midnight walk I took with my soldier, by the ocean in Oban. The night was cold, but the November moon was full and cast a romantic silver glistening on the waves. He was in his uniform, looking tall and dashingly handsome. I was wearing a long red velvet dress. It was the night I turned 40 and somehow this song takes me right back to that moment in time; walking, talking, laughing, happy. All the best things happen to me when I am in Scotland!
I had my second night class this week and I'm happy to say it went much better than the first. It was a fun class and I learnt a lot. We had a traditional style lecture, which is how I learn best, so I enjoyed it. Hearing the other students talk of their lives really made me appreciate things a lot more too. It made me realize what a very nice life I have and that I have already made most of my own wildest dreams come true. Psychotherapy training is just a back-up plan for me and an extra string to my bow.
I do think it is important to limit the drama in your life - by that I mean you should be careful who you allow into your space and if someone consistently pulls you down, cut them out of your life if possible. I have stripped a lot of dead wood from my life over the last few years - I regret none of it. In fact, I'm glad to be rid of the hangers on to be honest. It's been one long sigh of relief since I dropped false friends. Life is too short to spend time with those who are only hanging around because they hope to see you fall, or because they have a hidden agenda and they want something from you. Set yourself free and see how high you can fly without the dead weight dragging you down.
Real friends will always be there for you, no matter what. Betrayal simply doesn't feature in a genuine friendship - only in a jealous one. Distance will only break a relationship if it is a purely physical attraction; if there is a genuine attachment of hearts and minds, you can work around the distance, and keep working around it until the time comes for a romantic reunion. Until then enjoy your wildest dreams and do whatever you can to make them come true.