They say that living well is the best revenge and I absolutely believe that. When you succeed at anything, there are inevitably going to be people who dislike you for it. Some might try to stand in your way, or hold you back. Some of them might even try to tear you down or sabotage you - especially if they think that they can take your place! But if you act against them in vengeance, you are wasting your energy. Spiteful people choose to be that way - it isn't a birth defect. They choose to act in a spiteful manner towards you and so nothing you do will ever show them the error of their ways. Spite is the only power they have. And its a weak one at that.
It's far better to leave them behind. Put them out of your life like so much rubbish, in exactly the same way that you would put out the bins. Literally - bin them off! Don't have any contact with them, or if you must work with them, limit contact as much as professionally possible. The worst thing you can so is let them get you down. They will feed off your low mood like nectar. Be indifferent to them and don't allow them to have a negative effect.
If you have enemies, the last thing they will want is to see you succeed even more than you already have - so go after your goals with a vengeance! Focus on doing all the things they tried to prevent or sabotage. And if you are both aiming for the same target, make damn sure you hit it first! The news of your success will surely reach the one who thought to ruin your life and you can enjoy the prospect of their chagrin. Now that's vengeance!
Keep your life moving forward. Not only does that keep your enemies guessing - it also means that they won't have a fixed target to aim for. In addition, it will keep the opportunities coming your way, but keep these new contacts close to your chest. Its no-one else's business who you are dating or where you now work. Silence is golden because it can't be used against you.
Create a happy life for yourself, no matter who has tried to do you harm in the past. The best revenge is being happy and joyful, doing all the things you love to do, all the things your enemies tried to destroy. Keep writing, keep publishing, keep loving, keep dating, keep skating - whatever it is that is your own personal happiness trigger - just keep on doing it. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you are meant to be.
Beware of those people who copy everything you do though. This is an indication that they envy you. Envious people hoover up as much information as they can about the people they are jealous of - then they try to present it as their own life. So if you love riding and suddenly your sister-in-law is buying jodhpurs and telling everyone about her riding lessons, it might not be a genuine interest on her part. If you have just passed your driving test and your bus-hopping bff immediately goes out and buys a car within the week, it's likely to be because she can't stand the thought of you leaving her behind in any way. Envious people always emulate their targets. They just can't help themselves.
Most days, there are times when I take a few moments to truly appreciate the life I live and how far I have come. I take time to appreciate my loved ones, my writing success and all I have achieved so far in publishing and psychotherapy. Gratitude maintains the flow and life keeps giving to those who appreciate it. I try to be mindful of when I'm right in the flow of universal abundance - when I am skating across the ice and feeling the glide; when I am shopping for treats that make my daily life more luxurious; when I am cleaning my home and all the lovely things I own; when I am practising my beautiful piano; when I pick out a pretty outfit to wear, or pat a horse, or slip on ballet shoes, or drive my car. I take the time to appreciate all of it.
Because I do have a very nice life. I am content and gleeful as a witch in a broom factory. I worked hard to create the life I lead. It serves me as a protective boundary against the spitefulness of others. The magical bubble in which I live and write and work, cannot be penetrated by their malice. I am happy when I'm writing, reading or pursuing my activities. It's my life and I love it.
Make sure you create a life you love too. Love it, embrace it, own it and make it work for you no matter what, or who, tries to stand in your way. Because living well is the best revenge!
So enjoy yourself and try to leave people with a smile...
Keep your life moving forward. Not only does that keep your enemies guessing - it also means that they won't have a fixed target to aim for. In addition, it will keep the opportunities coming your way, but keep these new contacts close to your chest. Its no-one else's business who you are dating or where you now work. Silence is golden because it can't be used against you.
Create a happy life for yourself, no matter who has tried to do you harm in the past. The best revenge is being happy and joyful, doing all the things you love to do, all the things your enemies tried to destroy. Keep writing, keep publishing, keep loving, keep dating, keep skating - whatever it is that is your own personal happiness trigger - just keep on doing it. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you are meant to be.
Beware of those people who copy everything you do though. This is an indication that they envy you. Envious people hoover up as much information as they can about the people they are jealous of - then they try to present it as their own life. So if you love riding and suddenly your sister-in-law is buying jodhpurs and telling everyone about her riding lessons, it might not be a genuine interest on her part. If you have just passed your driving test and your bus-hopping bff immediately goes out and buys a car within the week, it's likely to be because she can't stand the thought of you leaving her behind in any way. Envious people always emulate their targets. They just can't help themselves.
Most days, there are times when I take a few moments to truly appreciate the life I live and how far I have come. I take time to appreciate my loved ones, my writing success and all I have achieved so far in publishing and psychotherapy. Gratitude maintains the flow and life keeps giving to those who appreciate it. I try to be mindful of when I'm right in the flow of universal abundance - when I am skating across the ice and feeling the glide; when I am shopping for treats that make my daily life more luxurious; when I am cleaning my home and all the lovely things I own; when I am practising my beautiful piano; when I pick out a pretty outfit to wear, or pat a horse, or slip on ballet shoes, or drive my car. I take the time to appreciate all of it.
Because I do have a very nice life. I am content and gleeful as a witch in a broom factory. I worked hard to create the life I lead. It serves me as a protective boundary against the spitefulness of others. The magical bubble in which I live and write and work, cannot be penetrated by their malice. I am happy when I'm writing, reading or pursuing my activities. It's my life and I love it.
Make sure you create a life you love too. Love it, embrace it, own it and make it work for you no matter what, or who, tries to stand in your way. Because living well is the best revenge!
So enjoy yourself and try to leave people with a smile...
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